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🛠️ You can’t blend without the right tools
Especially when the ex is high conflict, a toxic dynamic that changes all the rules about stepparenting.
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Blended Family Frappé
😖 The unfairness just kills me
A rant on the infuriating dichotomy between HCBM’s past behavior and her present-day polite chit-chat.
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🕯️ Finding light when stepparenting feels like a very long, very dark tunnel
… and the only way out is through. 🖤
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☮️ 6 tips for surviving high conflict at the holidays
Because stepparenting sure doesn’t get *less* complicated this time of year.
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💔 When you're disheartened
Finding hope when you feel hopeless.
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⚽️ When extracurriculars and high conflict collide
AKA, protecting your parenting time while getting guilt-tripped for it.
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✋🏼 Normal stepkid rejection vs alienation
How can we tell the difference between typical stepkid angst and full-on parental alienation?
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🍪 The secret blending recipe
How to feel blended when the ex continually tries to prevent you from becoming a real family.
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🌼 You matter.
And your contributions as a stepparent matter.
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😩 Back-to-school dread
The stress of back-to-school season for stepfamilies is so *beyond.*
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😡 Parental alienation sucks.
High conflict is one thing, but alienation is a whole new level of awful.
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4 things typical co-parenting advice gets wrong about high conflict
TL;DR: Stop bending over backwards and start setting boundaries that limit the ex’s toxic influence.
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