💁🏻♀️ You don’t need the ex’s permission.
The ex’s feelings about you being their kid's stepparent do not matter more than your own feelings about being a stepparent.
Today, just a quick reminder: you don’t need the ex’s permission to play a role in your stepkids’ lives.
Nor do you need the ex’s approval before you meet your stepkids or establish a relationship with them — this is not a job interview, and the ex is not your prospective boss.
You get to decide how to best show up for your stepkids — and if the ex gets wound up about that, well, that’s on them, not on you. The ex's emotional response is not your fault, nor is it your responsibility to manage.
Read that last sentence again.
In other words, haters gonna hate. And sometimes the easiest answer is just to... well, let them. 🤷🏻♀️
But don't you buy into their nonsense.
🧡🧡
— Maarit.
PS - Did your partner’s ex want to meet you before you were “allowed” to meet your future stepkids? Please share in the comments, I’d love to hear that story.
