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How to feel blended when the ex continually tries to prevent you from becoming a real family.
Back when I went to counseling for my anxiety, Counselor Jen and I talked a lot about life at home. Sometimes Dan and sometimes SD, but mostly HCBM, whose bullshit antics consumed my every waking moment.
"Usually when a client has such a visceral reaction to someone in their life, I find it's because that person represents something symbolic. What do you think HCBM represents for you?" Jen asked.
"She's the obstacle to us becoming a real family," I answered without having think about it. "But she's not a representation of that. She's literally what's preventing us from being a family. She poisons SD against us. She brings constant drama to our lives. Nothing at home ever calms down because she's always flipping out about something. How are we supposed to feel like a family when she's always preventing us from being one?"
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